- It is okay to contact my ex about something directly related to our child (questions, sharing daily information or pictures, etc.)
- It is okay to contact my ex about something indirectly related to our child (“Hey, thanks for watching Little Man last weekend so I could participate in that volunteer trail maintenance project! I had a lot of fun.”…. Yesterday, that’s exactly what happened.)
- While we figure it out, it is okay to contact my ex about the divorce agreement language.
That is it.
I hate that it has come to this, but even ‘hate’ is a strong word at this point. I’m just tired. J likes to text me sometimes about random things — A picture of her field work, things she did over the weekend. It’s vaguely like what a friend would do but she isn’t a friend, because she never initiates in-person contact. I’m not interested in chatting via text with people who ignore me in real life.
On a more positive note, I really did have a lovely day yesterday. I drove out to the mountains, met some new people, hiked and sweated and even got to use a crosscut saw for the first time in my life. On a ridgeline over a lake, 3 or 4 hours distant from my office, I also ran into one of my organization’s volunteers. I hadn’t met this particular volunteer in person before but I recognized him because we both had the same logo on our baseball caps. When he told me his name I recognized it, and I even knew some things about him because he used to be a regular volunteer and had some specialized skills. One of the people in my group snapped a picture of the two of us, and I went away smiling and thinking that this is one of the things I really like about my job: It connects me to a lot of different people in the community. Even in the mountains, which seem so big and remote, it is a small world.